It’s four o’clock in the morning when your phone rings, waking you up from a nice, deep sleep, a sleep that’s becoming increasingly harder to get since the arthritis has set in. You look at the clock. Two hours until you have to get up and start getting ready for work. You answer the phone and hear your daughter crying on the other end. She just gave birth a few weeks ago and has been calling almost regularly since they have been home from the hospital. This is her first child, and she’s paranoid or unsure about everything.
At first, you enjoyed being able to impart knowledge on raising a newborn. It was nice actually having your daughter listen to what you said for once instead of second guessing you, but now she’s come to rely on you and your wisdom. This wouldn’t be a problem, you think to yourself, if she didn’t call at the worst possible times, like at four in the morning two hours before a long workday. You wish, just for one second, that she could figure this one out on her own, but you pick the phone up anyway.
Raising a child, especially when it’s your first one, can be absolutely terrifying. There are so many things a new mom needs to know, some of which usually only comes after they’ve learned from the situation, unless there’s someone there they can turn to for last minute advice. The above scenario can be avoided, though, from the very beginning.
Present a gift at the baby shower that will, eventually, become her own personal handbook to raising her baby, and you don’t even have to be an “author” to do this. Simply type up any helpful advice or tips for the first few weeks a child is brought home, a list of contacts she should know, including emergency numbers that you know are the best based on experience, recipes she might want to try later, any personal stories you want to share that could learn from, music that you’ve found to calm babies, a list of items that are healthy and gentle to use for bath time, and places to shop where she can get the best prices on certain items.
After you’ve typed all of this, put it all on a custom flash drive (found at CFgear.com), put it in a fancy, satin pouch, and be ready to hand the gift over. You, of course, will have to explain that it’s her own personal beginning mothers guidebook that she can access any time she has questions. Be sure to let her know that only after she’s checked the flash drive, can she call you in a panic over which diapers to buy.